I may not get what I want, but I will always get what I need. Sometimes, I have to catch myself and redirect my thinking. As a young woman, I learned during my adolescence the desire for companionship is never a sin—it is a distinct part of who we are and what makes us human beings. It is somewhat hard for me to admit I get lonely in spite of me living with my family or how I desire to share my thoughts and daily adventures with a male peer. I never want to come off desperate, seeming thirsty because I dream of someone wanting to get to know me and be around me.

Our culture force feeds the necessity of being in a relationship, which is one of the reasons I created A Meeting at the Well. I chose to focus on the most critical relationship in every believer’s life. Our personal and growing relationship with the Lord God. I know life’s drama is cumbersome. Our bodies and spirits constrained. Like we’re lying down on hard beds, as layers and layers of blankets smother our faces. Life is humid. The air so thick we struggle to breathe. Hence our need to divulge information, give ourselves physically and spiritually to a person we perceive as worthy of our affections. What disaster lies at the tunnel’s end for so many of us, who possess skewed judgments of what is a good partner.

The excellent news is we do not have to figure out if we met the one or if this person has the qualities we need. God has the greatest matchmaking skills. He has designed every single one of us, so instead of dwelling on the future, let us rest our minds into the beautiful fabric of today—right now. And right now, so many of us are single, whether if we’re in our twenties, thirties, or beyond, we gathered here on this single precipice to examine the one true relationship, which will never fade. The relationship between God and us. If we fasten our hearts to embracing God’s love and not rejecting it; I know, then we will be less likely inclined to give the first man or woman who gives us attention our number or to continuously feed a relationship solely based upon sex or emotional manipulation.

For it is written:

“8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

Demonstrate means to show and prove a truth. I know what makes God amazing is that the Lord is not all talk. Yes, the Lord speaks, and when He speaks things happen. What is fascinating is the Lord God is a Sovereign Lord of action. God is not lazy, weary, or powerless. God says He loves and He proves it through Jesus Christ. God gave up His best, His beloved Son to demonstrate how invaluable we are to Him. Sin placed a bounty on our heads, and Christ paid it in full. What person would die for you if you did absolutely nothing for them? We were wicked.

Moreover, if we need to uncover the truth about love in a world full of lies, then let us look in God’s Word. Jesus explains in John 15, the significance of abiding in Him. To abide means to make ourselves at home, dwell in Him. Accepting Jesus is a twofold engagement. The doors to our hearts open when we believe He is the Son of God, and Savior of our sins. He enters into us, and we discover kinship on an entirely different level with Him. Through Him, we experience love in profound ways too.

“9 “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. 10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love.” (John 15:9-10)

God loved us first. Then, Jesus was witnessing how much the Lord loves us loved us too. Remaining in the love of Jesus means taking crucial steps to embrace His love and not resist, the sometimes, uncomfortable circumstances surrounding us. Jesus’s love does not come with a price. What Jesus is saying is “If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love,” it does not mean Jesus will stop loving you if you do not follow His commands. Even when you sin, when you push God away and refuse to behave like a child of God. Jesus’s love is as permanent as God’s love for us.  However, it is through obedience we experience the insurmountable, unconditional love of Jesus. Jesus’s commands are guidelines, precepts to live by.

When the Bible instructs us not to fornicate or not to have premarital sex, God is protecting us from soul ties and becoming intertwined with troublesome individuals and diseases (1 Cor 6:18). When the Word of God commands us to pray, prayer opens the gates of heaven, and so we receive wisdom and deliverance in times of temptation, problems at home or work (Matt 26:41). True love motivates transformation. True love is not self-seeking. Therein lies the love of God revealed to us each day, how we live on Earth for more than ourselves. These commands are created to make our lives easier, to help us avoid pitfalls. Worldly love is temporary and conditional, even the love of a child, family member, friend, or spouse will fade away. People are finite. Our love often depends on our mood and how we perceive someone. But can you believe it, Beloved? God’s love is fixed. We will never understand why God loves us, but we rejoice cheerfully because He does. His love inspires true change.

Remaining in Jesus love, obeying His commands also demonstrates our love and devotion to our Savior. To imitate Jesus and follow His commandments out of pure joy is the mark of maturity. A Christian willing to wait for their spouse and not urgently rush God to fill their needs, God Himself has fulfilled in His Son, Jesus.

 “14 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.” (2 Corinthians 5:14-15)

Bear this in mind: Jesus died not out of guilt, or charity. Jesus Christ died for us. His love compels us to live our lives for Him. So Beloved, be convinced, stand firm on Jesus’s love for us. Do not be swayed by the world we have a dire need to be with our significant other, immediately. What is more crucial is to build our relationship with God. This is the relationship growing and maturing us into the men and women of God we are destined to be. God’s relationship with us is what stabilizes our lives, keeps afloat. For if we lost the world then we would live, but if we did not have God, we would not have anything.

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